Sometimes we can feel ourselves being catapulted towards engaging in what can be labelled as self-destructive behaviours, whether that be picking up another drink, indulging in more unhealthy food, reacting explosively in our close relationships or picking up the phone to text someone we know isn’t ‘good’ for us. In these moments we can tap into our resources of patience but might need reminding of our resilience and capacity to do so.
HALTS is a helpful acronym that prompts us to remember human conditions that can trigger these reactionary behaviours. Originally developed to support people struggling with harmful alcohol and other drug use, remembering the HALTS acronym provides the opportunity to create space between our reactions and actions. Fostering the combination of self-inquiry, self-awareness and self-care promotes the transformation of what we do next into a response.
H – Hungry (physical and emotional)
A – Angry or Anxious
L – Lonely
T – Tired
S – Sick or Stressed
When we are feeling hungry, angry, anxious, lonely, tired, sick or even stressed, our body is asking us to stop, take a breath and address our basic human needs. These feelings are early warning systems before we reach a breaking point. In these moments we can practise patience and instead:
Hungry – Eat a healthy meal with wholesome company where possible.
Angry or Anxious – Remove ourselves from the situation if the feelings are overwhelming, ground ourselves back into the present moment, exercise or engage in self-reflective practice.
Lonely – Call or message a trusted friend, seek support from a professional, go to a café, reach out rather than internalise and isolate.
Tired – Take a nap or get some needed sleep
Sick or Stressed – Slow down to nurture your body and mind from ill-health, meditate and practise mindfulness
Practising patience can be challenging. This simple reminder when we are struggling, creates a spaciousness and supports us in making decisions toward self-actualisation.
Further Reading
https://bradfordhealth.com/halt-hunger-anger-loneliness-tiredness/
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